Tom & Nicole Split
One of the questions an astrologer is most frequently asked is whether there are any ideal matches between star signs. The answer is, while some signs link up easily – in both romance and friendship – there’s no perfect match. There are, however, a few very challenging combinations. And Cancer Tom Cruise and Gemini Nicole are one of them. Cancer males face the challenge of being hyper-sensitive water signs. Many compensate by ignoring their emotions completely, developing a gruff exterior. Others express it creatively, as Cruise has. His birth chart clarifies this. While the romantic Venus in the swashbuckling Leo and the warrior planet Mars in sensuous Taurus explain his allure, it’s the four planets in water signs – and the accompanying need for security – that Nicole would have been dealing with at home. And while Cancer males in the everyday world can suppress – or even ignore – their vulnerable emotions, as an actor Cruise must keep his alive. They’re his stock and trade. But, still, his objective would be to create a lifestyle that keeps any unconscious fears at bay. Their huge estate with a large staff did this. And luxurious as it may have been, it was also restrictive. Kidman, on the other hand, is a restless, witty Gemini. There are powerful links between their two charts – thus the marriage. But with four planets in unpretentious, creative fire signs, she would not only be unimpressed by the trappings of Hollywood royalty, she’d soon tire of them. As a Gemini, she has a classless mentality. Consequently, she needs to mix with all sorts of people, go to the shops herself. Reportedly, she left him, feeling suffocated by exactly the same environment that made him feel safe. Could this union have survived? Of course. Relationships are always in flux and require time, thoughtful effort and nurturing. But when the fundamental emotional needs of each partner are so different, constant communication is vital, as is a willingness to compromise - on both their parts. Hopefully they’ll both have learned from this. And perhaps we’ll all learn a few things, too. First, that however glamorous a life, personal issues and emotional conflicts must still be faced. And second, to be grateful for stable relationships with friends and loved ones in your own life.